26 September 2009

"I'm sorry, mommy."


Dear readers,
Here in my posts, you will see some little conversations we had with Miggy. For regular kids, this is no big deal but for children with autism, this is a giant, victorious leap in their milestones.

Sept. 24, 2009:
I caught him squeezing his toothpaste in a cup of water. Miggy, what have you done?, I asked.
He looked at me with a sorry face and said: "I'm sorry, mommy."

"This is my mother"


Miggy at 6yrs old:
Being very honest and not caring if his words were offensive, he tapped at my shoulder.
"This is my mother. She is old."

"Where is Daddy?"


Aug. 1, 2009: Bedtime:
Miggy: "Where is daddy? It's daddy's bedtime."
Mommy: Daddy is still feeding the dog.
Miggy: "I don't like daddy feed the dog, I like daddy eat the dog food!"

"Merica"


Aug. 24, 2009: Miggy's little conversation with Lola (Grandma):
Lola said: Miggy, Lola is going to America to visit your cousins. Lola is going to ride an airplane.
Miggy indignantly replied: "I don't like Lola go to Merica! I don't like Lola ride the airplane! Lola, pack away your suitcase!

19 September 2009

Words from Readers

Dear readers,

These are comments and emails from my family and friends. I am truly grateful to have all your support. With all these coming, the more I am inspired to go on with my endeavors. Tonight, I am going to sleep with a smile on my face. Knowing that you are with me in my prayers makes my heart swell.

Thank you very much. Please keep it coming.

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Pinky Herranz said:

Yolette my dear, dear friend, you are inspiring, Miggy is inspiring...you make this seem so easy because you are handling it with strength and quiet grace. I remember your tears and frustrations, but through it all, I could see your determination in helping Miggy be the best that he could be. I am proud to say that he's come a long way. That once quiet child now show a vast improvement and lots of promise, thanks to your loving mother's heart that never cease to give up and continue to hope. I am prouder still of you, for never giving up the fight, for being an inspiration to other parents who think that autism is paralyzing. I have seen you trudge your way through this road that is rough, tough and long. Both you and Miggy are a blessing to those who could never or choose not to understand. Maybe soon, through your ceaseless effort, they would come to accept the fact that autism is not the end of the world for their child. I salute you for your tireless ways in bringing understanding to something difficult to understand, for bringing hope to something that seems hopeless. Carry on my friend, I am praying for both you and Miggy...you've come a long way...God bless you always and in all ways!

“Yolette, hi. I hope you remember me. This is Therese Nicolas from High School. Your story is so inspiring, Miggy's much more. You are both lucky to have each other. I feel your pain more than I can let you know. Hang in there! I'm praying for you and Miggy.”

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Mira Penaranda said:
Hi Yolette,
Am very touched when I read your blog... And that's a great, fine work that you've done... Congratulations to a mom like you... Miggy is very lucky to have you...
Keep counting your blessings...
They keep coming...
You're such a good friend of mine.

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Mahal Pascual said:
i am with you yolette. i'm sure it'll inspire a lot of people especially the moms out there.

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Anonymous reader said:

“I know someone who suffers from autism (middle of the spectrum). Just like Miggy, Molly would flap her hands, couldn't sit still, no eye contact, and sometimes she would scream for no apparent reason. Her parents decided to send her to a regular school rather than send her to a special school. Molly is now in 3rd grade and is doing very well. She doesn't do the regular academic stuff but she can write and read and do simple math. It's her social skills that's improved tremendously. She now can carry a full conversation. She's slowly showing independence. I guess what I'm trying to say is, love, compassion and understanding from people who surrounds Molly, guides her to live a better and meaningful life. With all the wonderful people that surrounds Miggy, showing
unconditional love and understanding I am positive that he too like Molly will succeed in conquering this challenge.”

Primo Cuevas Said:

I read your blog about Miggy boy. Very inspiring and I'm also thinking of doing the same thing about Ojeck. We feel the same thing about our kids, but the most important thing is we accepted it and our family is so supportive about the situation, we remain a loving family to our kids.

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Hi Yolette,

Just want you to know that I admire you so much! Your strength and courage is unbelievably extra ordinary. May God be with you always and may He continue to bless you, your husband, Miggy and Clarisse.

Love and prayers will help you go through this…….. and that’s what you have….. from all of us your friends at Batchmate ’81.

Ruby Beh

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Dear Yolette,

This is so heart breaking, you pinched my heart and am so very proud of you for posting this.

I salute you.

love and care,

tita Neri


Mimi Carpio said:
Miggy is lucky to have such loving and caring parents/family. Proud of your strength and courage. You are still the same Yolette i knew years ago.A beautiful person inside and out.

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Rowena Villasenor said:

OMG ,yolette you made me cry i just couldn't imagine how strong you are. your family is so lucky to have you and miggy is so lucky to have a mom like you. am sure GOD has given you the strength that you have. indeed prayers are really answered in the way that's best for us. all of us have trials and we can always surpass them if only we can call on HIM properly. yolette, you are doing great for miggy and how miggy has improved through these years are fruits of your labor and love. go on and i wish you and your family all the luck and our prayers will always be with you. KUDOS to you and your family


Alma Valdez said:

You're such an amazing mom...you have been through a lot of hardships and i think there is nothing you cannot do for Miggy. Your great love for Miggy is his inspiration for his achievements despite his condition. God bless you and your family.


Susan Gagarin said:

I'm so proud of you sis. you've come a long way and how!!! looking back at our ust days, i really can't imagine you being so strong and i'm so proud of you. So glad i've traced you thru fb. kiss miggy for me, will u? this comes from alma and cherry too. Love u sis. I'm still keeping our pics from way back.

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Che Angeles said:

I can do everything through Him who gives me strength...Phillipians 4:3

Hand over all your problems to the Prince of Peace, Jesus Christ, and He will give you a peace that passes understanding... a peace that is beyond comprehension. (Christnotes)

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Hi Ate Yollette,

You're a true inspiration. Miggy is so blessed to have you as his mom. I'm very proud of you on sharing this story to us. Keep up the AWESOME jobs that you and your husband are doing.

God bless you guys.

Glenn Mabilangan

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Rose Dagdag said:

There's only one word that i can say to you,"Isa kang dakilang ina".keep it up and GOD BLESS YOU and YOUR FAMILY.
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Mae Chavez said:
after visiting your blogspot, i can barely see my PC's monitor because of big fat tears covering my eyes. you touched the very core of my heart. im so proud of you ate yolette. Miggy's progress is your trophy for being a very supportive mom. May miggy, you, and the rest of the family continue to discover the wonders of life =)
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Karen Gaw said:
I happen to see your Blog while surfing.
I also have a son, my first born, now 9 years old, who was also diagnosed by Dra. Eusebio to have PDD. He was diagnosed when he was 1 & 1/2 years old. My whole world came crushing down when I heard the confirmation. He being the first born, I was not aware of his developmental delays if not for my father who noticed something different about him.
I also went through what you went through. He was not verbal and is oblivious of things around and now he has so much to say, although he still has difficulty expressing what he specifically wants to say. He is also in Speech Therapy plus he has ABA at home who also teaches SPED. He studies in JASMS (Elementary of PWU) which is also a SPED school in Manila.
I can fully associate my son and myself in your blog. It is comforting to know that you are not alone in your battle.
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Mr. Rodolfo "Ompong" Tan (Baguio Photographers Club) said:

Miggy's site has given me so much education and information...
This definitey will help improve Colors Of A .
Miggy's Site will reach out and educate others as well

Thanks for sharing... You really have a wonderful family..
Thank you for sharing to us miggy and miggy's world...

Ompong and Elicon
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albino jun said...

TOTAL TRUST...
Mike Krzyzewski is one of the greatest men's college basketball coaches in NCAA history. One of the major reasons he's been able to build his Duke team into such powerhouse is that his players believe in him. They trust his ability to coach and motivate, so they are willing to do whatever he asks them to do.
In 2001, when his team (that eventually won the national championship) was going through a bit of adversity, Duke lost its center, Carlos Boozer, to a broken foot. The next day, after the team realized their big-man-in-the-middle would be out for several weeks, Coach K showed up at a 6 am practice with a smile on his face. One of his players, Mike Dunleavy, latter recalled what Coach told his disappointed charges. "He promised we'd go to the Final Four and win the national championship." He was right.
For a coach you can trust, you'll do anything.
For a GOD you can trust, you'll do son up to Mt. Moriah, there was a lot of trust going on. First, Abraham had to have total confidence that GOD knew what He was doing. After all, Isaac was Abraham's only hope of keeping GOD's promise of producing a nation of innumerable people. To sacrifice him would ruin everything.
And surely Isaac had to have supreme trust in his dad, for they were clearly going up the hill to sacrifice and there was no animal in sight. Plus, any dad/mom who would suggest to his son that he lie down on the altar would normally meet with some serious resistance.
A good coach earns trust, but no one can be trusted as GOD can. He proved it to Abraham by providing a ram, and He proved it to us by providing a lamb. We can give GOD our total trust.
WE CAN TRUST GOD IN ALL THINGS...

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J. Lazaro said:
i was searching for Dra. Mae Fronda-de Vera and i stumbled upon your site... i believe that something just wasn't right also with my son who was actually showing the signs you have described in your blog... he is going to be 3 years old on feb 23, 2010 and yet he shows all the manifestations you have described with your miggy probably at the same age... your blog now gives me more hope that maybe my son will also learn to talk soon... kasi right now po her younger sister talks more than he does and she is only more than a year old... your advice on how to deal with the situation would be of very great help, ate... thanks and more power...
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Jessica Medina (student at New Sinai Educational Systems) said:
after reading the everyday story of miggy together with my best friend,i feel inspired,..inspired that in our everyday lives there is hope and there is God who keeps on guiding us,who keeps on giving us a fresh start,a brand new day and never gets tired on giving us the right attention that we need.....
and for miggy,the cute little angel and for his family, GOD is with us "bless miggy's mom,bless miggy's dad, miggy's ate and bless the cute little angel miggy"...
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Professor Lilia del Barrio (New Sinai Educational System) said:
I can't help but shed tears upon reading Miggy's story. Once more it proved that love conquers all. Miggy's family indeed has to get a lot of credits specially his mom for bringing her son to the normal mainstream. I'm one with you in praying for his further progress.
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Emma Torres Baltazar, MD said:
You're an incredible mother and wife. I will pray for you for your strength and dedication. Continue your research, your journey will be easy with your faith and prayers. Sleep peacefully every night because you do your best everyday.

Take care of yourself..you became Miggy's mother because our God knows that you are the best mother who he could depend on, in this frightful and unfair world..It makes you the strongest person to take the everyday's challenge and that makes your life closer to Him, our God...makes a hard pill easier to swallow because God is always guiding you..
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Dear Mr. and Mrs. Cuevas,

I wanna thank you for building a site like this that sends every reader up on a journey of hope, faith, courage and love.

It's amazing how a mother and a father's love works...it can surpass barriers.

But when you also add the love of a sister like that of Clarisse... No walls can ever stand a chance.

I salute you for being able to stand up and fight this kind of battle. May your family inspire more people to not lose hope.

I congratulate you for being Miggy's mom and dad.

To Clarisse:
I am inspired by your kindness and understanding. Miggy is really lucky to have a sister like you. At such a young age, you are able to understand, accept and maturely face this kind of situation. I wish you all the best.

-Marie Joy Manzanares
PN student under Prof. Lilia Del Barrio
New Sinai Educational System


15 September 2009

Encouraging Comments

Today, I will be posting these very encouraging comments :

Nate True said:

"I loved to read this. It is so inspiring how your faith and love stands strong in spite of adversity. Remember the day will come when Miggy will be repaired and we will all live together with God forever. This life will only seem like the blink of an eye compared to that."
Kimmy Maclang said...

I am so glad you are writing all this down, and sharing your experience with the rest of the world. tita, i am very proud of you, ninong, and calis in every way, please remember that. this blog makes me even prouder of you.
i am sure that somewhere down the road, miggy will be so much better that he will be able to function by himself. he's a smart kid, and he's progressing so well.
i love miggy! love you tita!
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Tara Ethington said.....
I just wanted to tell you that I have been reading your blog and I wanted to tell you how brave you are for sharing your experiences with everyone. You are such a good mother and I am so proud of you and all the hard work you do to make sure that your family has the best life they can. I know what it's like to be a mother and all the things you have to do on a daily basis and I know you have added challenges with Miggy's autism. You are doing such a good job though and I know that Our Father in Heaven is watching you and that he must be so proud of you.
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Katherine Maclang said:

Hi Tita! I finally was able to become a "follower." I feel proud to have experienced some of these moments with you and to know that Miggy knows me and calls me by name. This is the article (Counting the Wins and not the Losses) I want to comment most about because it's true that you're really lucky; you have Tito Gerry by your side. Not only that, you have Clarisse, a wonderful sister by any standard. It's funny how Calisa is really a blessing to you. God could've given you an older child who does not have any sense of responsibility or does not know how to love and relate with an autistic child. But instead, He gave you a patient and loving Calisa. Just like He gave Ninang Etchie a Justin who loves Tristan with all his heart.
Just want to share to your readers how I am a witness to Clarisse's patience and understanding. She doesn't even try to compete for attention. She studies hard (consistent honor student) and can be relied on to watch over her brother.
Also Tita, I want to say kudos to you for being a very good mother. Superwoman ka talaga! We're always here for you, supporting you. You know that. Love you!
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Hi Tita!
I have been reading your blog, and I wanted to tell you that I love you.
I really miss you, and I am really proud of you. Talk to you soon
love, kira

Malooh True said:

Despite the endless challenges you and your family are faced with, your persistence is very encouraging. You have overcome the adversities that is thrown your way and continue to strive at great lengths. You are a great mother.I pray that you stay healthy for Miggy depends on you. I love you, sis!


Jenn Edwardson said:

Wow. I posted your blog on my FB page as I am so deeply moved by it. I am a Christian mom to twin autistic boys and just last Sunday, Jacob, who is more profoundly autistic than Joshua, said, "Mama! Jesus is in my heart!!" He was unable to communicate anything like that before. So when I saw Miggy's words about his faith, I just teared up. I loved it. Thank you for sharing your lives which I know aren't secret but the experiences are still intimate. What you are doing is a gift. And it's appreciated.


05 September 2009

Triad of Impairments in Autistic People


Autistic people have severe difficulties in three main areas. These are:
  • Social Communication.
    Autistic children usually always start talking late, if at all. If they use language, they often have problems expressing themselves and in understanding the meaning of what is being said to them.
  • Social Interaction.
    Often autistic children do not notice people around them or acknowledge others when they are being spoken to. Eye contact tends to be very poor. Facial expressions are often practically non-existent and/or inappropriate. Body posture is often 'stiff' and awkward. Some autistic children are profoundly withdrawn from other people, resisting contact.
  • Social Imagination.
    Flexible thinking and pretend play are rare for autistic children. Their play tends to be repetitive and stereotypical (example: copied from videos). Often obsessive behaviors occur in ways such as lining up toys, and spinning objects (or themselves). Autistic children tend to play by themselves and not interactively with other children.

The following are some features commonly associated with autism:

  • Learning difficulties: often either severe or moderate.
  • Obsessive interests: example: in cars or collecting odd things (like bottle tops)
  • Need for routines: often autistic children get very distressed with changes in daily routines.
  • Patchy profile of abilities: example: some autistic children are very good at complex tasks (such as computer games) but are unable to dress themselves.
  • Odd mannerisms: commonly - hand flapping, tiptoe walking, spinning or jumping up and down when excited. Some children rock back and forth, bang their heads or self injure (pick at skin or bite themselves)

Source: Parents of Autistic Children Together
http://www.pact-uk.co.uk/autism.htm